A Way To Look At It

So, I seem to be gifted with a lot of work, social outings, and getting myself into the occasional pickle as I am too nice.

Yes, being nice and polite at times leads to interesting situations. I will leave it at that. I also realize were I more assertive it would likely not be an issue at all.

So pondering how to tell someone politely but firmly, thanks but no thanks, I reflected on the holiday coming up…not the Superbowl dear lord, I hear it everywhere. It is hard to not be into football and live where I do. Do not get me wrong, it is lovely and entertaining but it is all anyone can talk about and it gets tedious.

So I was reminded of Valentine’s Day coming up…the day after being 1/2 off all chocolate day. Now that is a holiday…and I am eating better so of little use to me. Meh.

I found this meme or clip from Ghostbusters 2:


His reaction is as ever, priceless.

So my thinking is we should all just keep it in perspective. Live every day to the fullest and maybe if you have a desire for chocolate just go for it here and there mind you. If the world does not end and you have gorged yourself on chocolate, well that is no good either. Moderation is a beautiful thing.

Another way to look at it, sad thought too, how many couples are just going through the day and waiting to break up after the holiday just so they were not without a date for Valentine’s day? Sad thought. It does happen, along with after New Year’s, hence Jan 6th is one of the biggest divorce days.


Well, embrace the single freedom if that is where you find yourself, or preemptively if you were already there to start, and just think if this prediction was right then, “meh” anyway.

To reflect while we are on this orb whining about in the galaxy:


Wise man. Do what makes you happy. You should do that anyway, and if you are lucky to find, or have, a partner in crime a companion, then good for you. But either way be true to yourself and the rest will, as it always does, fall into place. Maybe the right person is going through their own crap too and they will cross your path when they are in a better space as well. Sometimes life just works like that. Meantime, you deserve to be happy now, so go for it. Of course for some that means getting out there and dating, if that is the case enjoy. Meeting people can be entertaining if nothing else, if nothing else you get funny stories to tell your friends later. Life is too short and depression lies.

Then there is this:


A lady at work made this observation to me once. I reflected on those unhappy yet paired and then thought, yeah, I like where I am.

For a bit of levity to your day:


Preach little bird, preach. Pity I cannot go for the smoking bit, but yes, relaxation and a beach. Sounds good to me. :)

Unexpected Opportunity

It will be rough at work the rest of the week. I am told there are technical unexpected issues with some review process we all have to do now.

I would have liked to have thought that maybe it was ironed out during the roll out, but from what I gather not so much.

Nevermind that.

This is the odd thing. A former came I to work, it happens, visiting those he worked with. Currently he is in college studying film and his request: hey do you think you would be willing, or could you, write a short screenplay for a horror short film?

I gather he may try to enter it into some festival in the following year. I am currently pondering. If I could would it be something he could at least work with? I have until the summer to get it done. He showed me past projects he has worked on which are respectable…

Keep you all posted, but yes, may not be blogging as often yet again. Hope that explains my well here and there, on and off.

Sometimes the universe just flat out tells you: just write.

This Last Week…Seriously

The only good thing about it so far has to be that it had a good friend’s birthday in it.

Actually, good friends has been the only redeeming part of this last week.

It has been that hectic I have even not had time to read much. It was nice catching up with you all.

I know we all handle things differently, but I wanted to share what found all the same as it spoke to me. They have touched the lives of many.


For me, David Bowie was the Goblin King and first crush. Also loved his music of course, but he was Jaret to my mind for so long. As I got older I appreciated him even more.

David Bowie…so much to say. I highly recommend the last video he shot, Lazarus (link to Lazarus here) from his Blackstar album if you are up to it. I had no idea prior to this that he also played saxophone and wonder if that was himself or another artist. Either way between that and the Within you (link to Labyrinth goodness of Goblin King) from Labyrinth or The Underground. Oh heck just about anything really. We all have our favorite songs.


And of course, Alan Rickman. He was a good man and a great actor. Source found on Facebook Fantasy and Sci-fi Rock My World, from Intergalactic Geek Alliance.

The most touching has been the tributes from friends and those who knew him to be kind, generous, and how he always made time for people as well as having fun on the set. (link to video about prank on the set). It is just good seeing him laugh so good naturedly.

I swear, it is like one after another…crazy start to a year. There is no blame, it just is. Makes me wonder if as going by Taoist thought a sense of balance the rest of the year will be more awesome? Maybe we find a cure for a kind of cancer? I am trying to look at a bright side. Either way, cancer just sucks. Always has.

Other than that, I had more to say but really I guess I am more at a loss for words than I expected.

Thank you my friends for being there. I hope you are all well. Now to work tomorrow…joy.

Yet, this gave me hope that it is never too late to pursue your dreams. Thank you both, Mr. Rickman and Mr. Bowie.


It is way small...sorry...also it was done for his birthday. Still a powerful message to persevere and follow one's dreams. From Themetapicture.com.

The Ties That Bind

Being a woman in today’s world may not be as difficult as it was in the past, but there are still times we are reminded that we still coming out of an age of inequality. There is a gap in pay still, expectations on either end…it is frustrating if you think about it.

Pursue a career, you sacrifice family, dedicate yourself to a family, you are giving up freedoms that were fought for, where is the “you”? It is exhausting. No matter which way you go one side will not approve.


My hero. I love her sass! :)

Screw that. The middle exists. I have seen women do it; it is possible though difficult. And why are we judging one another so much in the first place? I mean I know I can probably look back and it goes all the way back to antiquity, women nitpicking other women for just about anything. Seriously.

All this rabble rousing on breast feeding in public too. Some just want to shock, others have a point, and I am sitting back stroking my chin wondering of this is yet another distraction from bigger issues like paid family leave in the U.S.? I have a bit of a conspiracy streak and that argument seems like a lame, “look over here” so we do not see what is going on over there sort of distraction.

Then I thought about my mother and what she had to go through. How far she had come and how the world changed in her time. How she helped pave a way for me as other women have before her. I wanted, and still do, to make her proud to do more than she had. To continue paving a way of sorts, maybe through words or art. Maybe another brick in the wall, but a colorful one if I have anything to say about it.

And then I thought on mothers in general how they all love, nurture, teach their children, and from there my mind wandered to those who have lost their mothers. I was reminded again this last year what a hard road that is when a friend of mine lost her mother in July.

A sadness swept over me there thinking of those who have passed and those left behind. How could it not? And yet, even with the sorrow there they all are, the mothers who came before us, in our words, in our thoughts, in how we laugh or smile, in what we value, in how we see.

The idea stuck with me, especially once I read how there is some evidence scientists have found that suggests our ancestors’ experiences are a part of our DNA, almost like an emotional genetic imprint passed down throughout the generations. Therefore, so much more are our mothers still with us…more than genetically, emotionally and energetically. Maybe I am making a leap in reasoning, but it seems to fit to my mind. Like how you can still feel them and know they are smiling with you even though you cannot tangibly see them there.

It also reminded me of the 2 Cellos version of “Hurt” click here for YouTube video of Hurt by 2 Cellos how the music, though pained, keeps going on and sad as it is, beautiful, vulnerable, and ultimately triumphant.

Then as my mind wandered through social sciences and science, I reflected on how the Vikings were already all over this concept way back in the day.

As quoted from The 13th Warrior, and I believe it to be a Viking saying as well, “Lo there do I see my father; Lo there do I see my mother and my sisters and my brothers; Lo there do I see the line of my people, back to the beginning. Lo, they do call to me…”

It is an interesting concept. I wonder about all of the mothers, grandmothers, great-grandmothers, and so on and on, watching over children, grandchildren, descendents, and how we muddle through this world carrying with us their love, hopes, and good intentions. Another saying came to mind, “we are the result of the love of thousands.”

Naturally, I hope we are making them all proud, but even I know really a mother just wants her child to be happy. At the end of the day, that is what is important.

To that end I hope we are all successful. Life is not so much a competition as a training ground, and training to be happy is oddly one of the most difficult things a human can do. Cheers, lovely ladies.

Ps. Fellas, sorry for leaving you out of this one, but it was a girl thing…duh.


Every time...

Retro Problems

They say that computer issues happen when there is a Mercury retrograde. Also, communication issues, a time to reflect internally, etc., etc., and to boot it can start at times a bit before and linger a bit after called the “shadow” of a retrograde.

So naturally my phone goes wonky. May or may not have a virus, outstanding technology.


Every single time...

I do not know why, and yes, I know just griping does little to fix a problem. As it stands it is late, work is up and running again in full swing and I am wondering what to do about phone viruses and whether or not it is the service or a Geek Squad fix. Silly me thought it was fixed when the antivirus program on my phone said it got rid of malware…no, you did not as the issue presented itself again.


When did we become so reliant on technology? Sneaky technology, tricksy technology. We wants it but we fears it…and we left access to our novel work on it. Yeah, convenience and smarts…convenience often wins. No worries, I have a back up…still.

Enough griping and some positive musing, at least I know about it. At least it is only when accessing the Internet on the phone through Google. At least I have a sense of humor.


By the way, yes it was good, but not what I had hoped all at the same time. I will live, and I will likely finish the series all goes well, but it saddened me. Having read the fan books afterward I confess I had some expectations that I was forewarned would not happen. Still, Han was outstanding, as was Chewie, Rey, Poe, Leia, and Finn. I actually liked the new Droid BB8 more than R2, but I always thought R2 was more of a dick than he needed to be–there is sass and then there is irritating jerk sass, basically being a dick. BB8 was just more vulnerable, had more personality, or something (yes, I realize I am talking about a fictional robot, a non-human), anyway, I liked that Droid more for it. And he also had a bit of sass too which made him endearing.

Now to stop putting foot in mouth with my friends and the year will be off to a better start.

The Eve

Well, here I am writing, about time.

Anyway as I am out and about shortly I thought I would share a few memes in the blog world.


This one is going around a bit, and I agree with it overall. So cheers.


I say be your authentic self, but the metaphor is in there still I feel. That and Lucy was cool and the reason Star Trek the original series was aired, so she has some definite cred in the Sci-fi world I feel.


I feel Hemingway had a point, and for some of us tis is what tonight will feel like, so applicable.


For when you have heard your friend say this like every year. You love them, but deep inside, or maybe not so hidden, ypu and RDJ are making this face. Oh sweetie, have another champagne and just work on one thing if you want. Do not try some dramatic overhaul of life and self announcement.

I find that simple little changes are more lasting than a dramatic 180. 180s can hppen and work, but often omly after some major life upheaval (moving, job change, divorce, marriage, death, birth, etc.). Small changes, one thing at a time, seem to work in a more lasting way in general. Also, more effective when not connected to new year.

We change when we are ready. Not one minute sooner or later.


Lastly, if you are going to party…do it like a Time Lord.

Happy New Year and many blessings to all friends and family. May this coming year see you grow as you wish; may your dreams become a reality (the good ones not those nightmares that keep you up at night and skeptical of the bathroom mirror); and may you find peace and love within your self.

Awaiting the Awakening

Well, I know not much going on other than not liking where the storyline is going. Writing problems. I know, I know, get it down and then revise for your life. Still it makes me want to say meh just looking at it right now. Like, that is not good enough or why is it leading this way instead of this way?

So a break.

I get to see the Force Awakens on New Year’s Eve, Martine has made the arrangements. I know it may be shocking waiting so long, but we vowed we would see it together and schedules are what they are.

While waiting I did get this for Christmas which has made me feel much more Zen and a bit of Celtic happy. A tree of life by Jen Delyth throw blanket that I am using as a tapestry for my bedroom.

I love it.


I shot this with less light as it is winter. Still it is lovely.

So while pondering the new year I hope to do so in a better balance.

Now back to the breech, or the writing, you know what mean. :)


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